• Nathaniel G. Sands

Discussing controversy : Pt.1 Why are we so angry?

A sucker-punch from December 2018

The word hate get's thrown around quite liberally these days. I don't really like that word; I would personally describe our situation as more of an embedded frustration.

It's quite clear to anyone who is paying attention that our society seems to be more divided then ever. Difficult political issues are not up for debate anymore, they are at an ideological stalemate. It's my intent this week to dive headfirst into some pretty intense dialogue about some serious issues we are facing as a society. Abortion, sexism/ racism, religion, medication and poverty to name some. But first I want to try to understand why instead of discussing these issues we are forced to take a side and to believe that anyone who disagrees is wrong and/or evil.

I believe most of us hold our political and ideological positions from a place of love, not hate, and that given the information we each have at hand, and the perspectives our lives have offered each of us as a lens to look through, we hold to our beliefs because we each attempt as best we can to adhere to the good and to the just. It is no doubt our selfish nature that corrupts such thinking, and pride obscures a true rational approach toward any subject. I certainly hate being wrong. It's embarrassing and reveals my weakness and vulnerability. That is why as I approach these complex and divisive subjects, I intend to lay out an impartial position of each. I will use, to the best of my ability, my personal experiences, the experiences of those close to me that I have contemplated and discussed, as well as relevant information and statistics as best as I can in an attempt at clear and concise argumentation for some of the most "triggering" subjects we face today. But first I wonder, why are we so angry?

It wouldn't be out of the ordinary to see me with a black eye or a bloody nose. A good friend of mine has said, and I quote, "You do have a very punch-able face." That being said, I wouldn't say I necessarily enjoy getting punched in the face, it certainly happens often enough. Whether it's from the sports I play, wrestling with dogs, boxing with buddies or the occasional ass-hole at the bar, some would wonder if I go out of my way to get punched. But let me assure you I never hope to get punched in the face - but I am willing to defend my honour and my principles, and that is a good enough predicate for a society as bitter and angry as ours.

I grew up in a small town. Maple Ridge is a suburb of Vancouver, and was once seen as a farming community. Now, it would be difficult to see it as such, especially if one were to drive from one end to the other. Maple Ridge has become a housing market hotspot and a commuters village. Small areas like Albion, which was once considered "the boonies" is now shoulder to shoulder housing, and bumper to bumper traffic. Coming into town from the Golden Ears bridge is a death trap during rush hour, and good luck finding a parking spot uptown on a Saturday. The traffic situation is a definite contributor to many people's frustration, and it is a microcosm of a bigger issue that my dad once said best: "You ain't got nothing if you got no land."

I am 28 years old. Since the age of 18 I have been working full time, in jobs that are not particularly popular. At my current job I am the youngest of the bunch, most have either worked for this same company or in the industry their entire adult lives. All have homes and vehicles, wives and vacation spots. I am single and renting a basement suite. Driving a 17 year old truck, and stay-cationing as a norm. As I named the blog the generation of broken hearts, I attempt to understand what exactly is going on these days that is creating such a shift in culture.

I cannot necessarily place the blame on anyone. As I analyze my life, my own decisions have played a decisive factor in my own current predicament. None of us should look to others in placing blame, and its easy to throw it bitterly onto those who are thriving. That being said, I personally believe corruption at all levels is rampant. The failure of individual character seems to be ever-present and increasing, especially in the political arena.

Attitude reflects leadership.

A country like Canada, with every natural resource at it's fingertips should be thriving. Instead we are continually in debt, and clearly in a time of recession, even when the increasing technological and medical advances should indicate progression. So what's up?

No doubt political policy, (like the closure of mental health facilities and elementary schools, to the lack of will in solving the opioid epidemic) , and failure of individual character at all levels of the governmental institutions - from your MP's spending thousands on vacations (not mine, as personally I would say my current MP, Dan Ruimy of the liberal party is genuinely honest and hardworking to say the least!), to the city workers standing around one guy with a shovel, to waiting an hour on hold with institutions like revenue services or the DMV, our management seems to be the laziest and dishonest group of the bunch.

The view from my workstation

How do we remain grateful for what we have in the face of such debauchery? How do we respond to such injustice? Instead of anger, I choose instead to enjoy the friends and family I have, to make my rental my home, and to dedicate myself toward propagating good and love. Comparatively speaking, we should be so grateful for the lives we have! From the beginning of humanity until like 150 years ago, nearly half of children died before turning two! Woman's greatest fear was childbirth, and a man's was grueling labour or a draft into war - all of which contributed to immeasurable death and suffering we remain so ignorant of.

That being said, I believe those in charge consistently make bad decisions. They are individuals, and they seem to act accordingly. We all fall short of the glory of God. The last wise leader who should have been the current prime-minister of Canada was Jack Leyton of the NDP. And often I ask God in agony why he had to die, leaving the country under such a pretentious and dishonest leader such as Justin Trudeau.

But the great thing about democracy is that there is always hope. A new election is around the corner. And although it seems the games will continue, the government will manipulate and formulate based on interior motives and greed, willing to give misinformation and avoid the real questions in order to push individual agenda's, we can't live and wait in frustration. It may seem like I am causing more grievance, strife and division, but this is simply the beginning of an ongoing conversation. It is my intent, as I have mentioned previously, to look at the issues at hand honestly, regardless of the circumstances, coming out a better man than I went in.

From the great Samwise Gamgy:

"There is still good in this world, Mr. Frodo, and it's worth fighting for."

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